Day 341 self-forgiveness related to believes about myself when being part of a group

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself when I am in doubt of the moment when I should make a stand for myself and my principles when being part of a group.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that I can’t be in doubt of the moment when I should speak up for myself and to not see, realise and understand that doubt will alway’s be there when I want to speak up for myself and/or make a stand.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to wait with speaking up for myself because of the doubt that I have. Where I can see that this has to do with me assessing the situation that I want to speak up about to make sure that what I see is correct and not be colored by emotions, believes or assumptions or make things personal.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have the thought that I can’t make misstakes when being part of a group. Meaning that I have to be a groupmember that is the perfect example of being a self-leader, showing others how to be effective in every situation. I can self-honestly say that this is not where I am now as I see that it it’s a  process of me becoming that effective.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that I have to like people when working together.  Where I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that working together is not about making things personal or that I have to like (or not like) people to be able to work with them, and instead to see  that it is all about what I can bring to this project or organisation/business. And to know what my strength is and  bring that into the project.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to think that I should be able to work with everybody when being part of a group.

When and as I am aware of me being in doubt of which moment I should speak up when being part of a group, I stop and I breath. I realise that doubt will be there. I can embrace it and at the same time, speak up and/or make a stand. I commit myself to embrace doubt within myself and to speak up/stand up when I see it’s needed.

When and as I am aware of me making things personal when being part of a group, I stop and breath. I realise that it is all about me bringing in my strengths to accomplish the task/goal we have. And so I commit myself to focus on the tasks that needs to be done and to bring in my strengths.

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