Day 333 The answer is always right in front of me

The answer is right in front of US! An old clue found in ...

As we all have to make decisions in our lives, I have found out that sometimes I can make them in an absolute certainty; I know what I want, or not. It’s clear and solid to me and if feels natural.

When I look back in my life (especially in my teenage years),  at the decisions I have said ‘yes’ to in an absolute certainty, those where the decisions were I have learned most about myself or I expanded myself through strengthing my talents or developing new skills.

However, nowadays, I am sometimes confronted with situations where I freeze within myself when I have to make a decision. What’s behind it is fear, the fear of having to make a choice. At the moment for instance, I am faced with more than one direction that I am able to take in my work. I can also see that my talents and skills will fit in any direction that I choose. Now being aware of this makes me go into freezemode right away. And I leave it just there, I don’t investigate or search for what is best to do while the answer is right in front of me.

The point I missed and that leads me to an answer as a certain and clear decision, is to give myself all  context; everything and all that is involved. What I can do in this situation is;

  • to take everything in consideration
  • to take the people that are involved in my life in consideration
  • to look at the possibilities and probabilities
  • to see when and if I go this or that way, what will be best?

Instead of gifting this to myself, I just go into a reaction immediately. And thus,

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear by going into freezemode when faced with having to make a decision.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to panic in fear when I am faced with more than one opportunities within my work.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realized and understand that the answer is right in front of me, in this case a decision that I can be clear on.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not take the responsibility to direct myself out of my freezemode and instead, leave myself hanging in there for a while.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to let fear control me and to not change this in real-time when being aware of this fear.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not gift myself  the context of all  and everything that is involved and that will lead me into an answer that is a clear decision.

When and as I am aware of me going into fear/freezemode when faced with having to make a decision, i stop and I breath. I realize that the answer is right in front of me and so I commit myself to give myself full context of everything and all that is/are involved in the situation so I can make a clear decision.

 

I can recommend this interview with support on having to make a decision;

Why your weakest points are your greatest strength – life review

 

 

 

 

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